I was 14 when the scandal of Monica Lewinsky and Bill Clinton, former
president of the United States of America, broke loose. All I
understood was that the married president had an affair with an
intern. He was impeached and she was publicly humiliated and shunned
from society. I am not going to discuss what Monica Lewinsky did in
her twenties, because honestly, it is not anyone’s place to judge.
TVs, Bloggers, Social Media Networks were suddenly filled with two teams
fighting against each other, one team supporting her courage to come out
and speak of her ordeal and the other reminding her of her life as a
“president’s whore”, some even called her unpatriotic and a “Spy”.
Turns out, for most of the population, something that happened over
16 years ago will not leave your reputation, Monica Lewinsky seems doomed
to carry the Scarlett letter forever.
What did Lewinsky say? She first made a joke about people wondering “Who
the hell is she, this Monica? And what is she doing here?” She then joked
about her life in the limelight and what reading the Starr Report online
with the rest of the people meant for her sense of privacy and “shame”.
luck, and don’t be afraid to block the creeps/jerks/haters.
recalls “Overnight, I went from being a completely private figure to a
publicly humiliated one. I was Patient Zero.” I kind of agree, in the age
of No Google and No Privacy Settings, Monica Lewinsky back then was the
patient zero of social media bullying. She feared for her safety and her
only friends at the time were the FBI agents on her security detail. She
briefly acknowledged her affair with former President Bill Clinton but
mainly focused on the aftermath which according to her, left her
“shattered” and repeating to herself “I want to die.” She also mentioned
to the audience the recent wave of celebrity nude photo hacking and
leaking, warning “anyone can be next.” My opinions of Monica Lewinsky as a
human being are irrelevant here. I feel the need to praise this woman
taking a very public stand and subjecting herself to a wave of abuse and
shaming for one greater cause she is now crusading for, Cyber Bullying.
Since Lewinsky was the first person to have their reputation destroyed
over the internet, she now declares she would now use her experience to
help others deal with cyber bullying and online violations of privacy.
survived myself, what I want to do now is help other victims of the shame
game survive too,” she said.
her speech, Monica recounted the story of the lateTyler
Clementi, saying “Anyone can be next. One day in 2010, an
18-year-old Rutgers freshman called Tyler Clementi, was next. After his
roommate secretly videotape streamed him via Webcam kissing another man,
Tyler was derided and ridiculed online. A few days later, submerged in the
shame and public humiliation, he jumped from the George Washington Bridge
to his death.
tragedy is one of the principal reasons I am standing up here today. While
it touched us both, my mother was unusually upset by the story and I
wondered why. Eventually it dawned on me: she was back in 1998, back to a
time when I was periodically suicidal; when she might very easily have
lost me; when I, too, might have been humiliated to death.”
does have an uphill battle unleashing online, She joined Twitter Two
days ago on October 20th,
only to release three tweets, following no one and gaining almost 70,000
followers in the blink of an eye, following her speech on the same day,
her account was bombarded by waves of trolls and bullies slut shaming her
with crude references to her past scandal in 1998. Still not pro Monica?
Check the following statistics.
stfu Monica Lewinsky there are consequences when you diddle with married
men. you don’t get to claim “1st victim of Internet bullying”
it comes to recent statistics related to cyber bullying deaths,
Monica Said “Of the cyberbullying related suicides in the last decade, 43%
have occurred since Tyler sadly jumped from that bridge (2010). And that’s
not even including stats for last year (2013). Among young Facebook users,
close to 54% say they’ve been cyberbullied. One in 5 (college students)
report being victims of cyberbullying; 1 in 4 for young women.”
with what Monica Lewinsky did or didn’t do in the years between 1995 and
1998, that is your call. But you need to support what she is trying to do
so that no one suffers the sense of alienation and shaming that she has.
We don’t want another cyber bullying related suicide on our hands because
as Monica put it “It takes a lifetime to build a good reputation but you
can lose it in a minute. That’s never been more true than today.”
Lewinsky just received a standing ovation at#Under30Summit.
Obama can’t even fill a room for a campaign stop… in MARYLAND.
having survived myself, what I want to do now is help other victims of the
shame game survive too. I want to put my suffering to good use and give
purpose to my past.” Who are we to disagree, let’s put the past to the
past and help today’s generation live shame free.